I hope you all had a wonderful summer and have settled back into your daily routine life. Some of you are settling the kids back into school and others are returning to work. Whichever one it is, you must always remember to take care of yourselves and deal with the stress life may throw your way! This is why I hope we can kick start this month focusing on what is important for you and how to go about achieving good health in the right way.
I have noticed in my practice that many who seek my services are very high achievers and are committed to personal growth. They accomplish this, because they are committed to taking the necessary steps that they need in order for them to move forward. Whatever these goals may be, they are there to help them stay on track – but sometimes setting goals can backfire and hurt you without you realizing it.
When you focus too much on goals and then do not achieve them, you get disappointed, frustrated and call yourself a failure. This creates a negative mindset and your consious will never be happy until you have achieved your goal. If this vicious mindset keeps on going for some time, then you will begin to believe that you are incapable of following through with any goal you set.
This is why in my practice I help my clients work on the process that they need to reach their goals by breaking down everything into baby steps. As we move from one stage to the other they feel comfortable and confident to take the next leap forward. This prevents negative feedback, developing new habits and establishing new set points.
The process is more important than the goal
I have been on yo-yo diets for my entire life until about 5 years ago. I always failed miserably at them, until I finally understood the importance of what it is to create and understand “The process”. I always struggled with a few extra kg and was never satisfied with how I looked. I decided to set some goals and told myself that in 3 months I would lose 5 kg. Doable right? Not really….. The actual goal seemed easy, I had 3 months to do it. In my mind I convinced myself that I could do it and I started a diet. I did not understand what it entailed from a preparation perspective. All I knew was that I had to exercise more and eat only what was on the menu. I embarked on the journey and I was going strong the first week. The first weekend came and it was a bit more challenging. Then the second week went by and I slowly started slipping and eating things I shouldn’t. However, I would keep on going, but by the 3rd week I had already fallen off the wagon and “cheat meals” became every meal. I ended up gaining what I lost and coming down hard on myself that I was a failure. Does this story sound familiar?
The goal I set out, although it seemed easy, was not achieved. I had no process, just an aspiration. What I learned to do is control the process by which we can help our body achieve what we have set out to do.
You can apply this process to anything in life
What is very important to understand is that in order to lose weight, we must not follow a diet. It must be a way of life. We must introduce better and cleaner food options into our diet, remove the refined carbohydrates and sugar and eliminate fried foods. We should walk for 30 minutes daily and include weight training activities in our workout. We should also drink more water, reduce alcohol consumption, sleep early, chew our food 25 times and eat slowly. We also need to consider what is going on with our digestion, thyroid, adrenals and hormonal imbalances.
Once we understand the bigger picture of what and how these things impact our health along with stress and the process to implement these are in place, then and only then will we be able to achieve our goal of losing weight – and keeping it off!
Does this resonate with you in any way? Do you think that the process is a helpful tool to have in your tool box? I would l love to hear from you, and please let me know if I can be of any assistance with your health journey.
Always looking out for you,
Small Changes for a Healthier “U”